I interviewed Femme leaning people about their personal experiences around men. Below is the question asked.

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Imagaine a man in your life who loves and cares for you. He could be a family member, friend, or intimate partner. What was it that he did that made you realize that he did not actually like you?

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First person that came to mind was my brother and that may be the same case for my sister but I realized he didn't like me when he started talking about how women should keep their legs closed if they don't want to get pregnant and he said that to me and I'm literally a single mother.

~ JS

 

So one time me and JS’s car had broken down and we were being mechanics and fixing it. There was a seized bolt and it was impossible for any regular person to do it. A professional mechanic had to come with professional tools. Oour brother came over because we were going to have a little party. He insisted that he could fix the car or at least get farther than we got. I informed him I'm positive you will not get any further than we got which was as far as anyone could get without the professional tools. He did not accept that because we are women and un-did what we did and did not get as far as we got. I let him know. I said “See now I have to redo everything that you just took off because you don't remember how to put it back together and you did not get as far as we did.” That killed his ego a little bit so then later on that night we all got into a fight about religion politics and said that if women would learn to keep their legs closed none of this would be happening and we wouldn't need to have abortions after I had got done having a conversation about children born under rape. I was still making references to the fact that women are raped sometimes and then still forced to have children . He kept insisting that we still needed to keep our legs closed. The whole conversation and fight stemmed from the fact that he was so angry that two women got further than he did with the mechanics on the car. I have not spoken to him since then. That's when I realized he didn't actually give a fuck about us. That's when I realized and it fully clicked that our brother did not actually give a fuck about us at all and he does not see us as human beings. 

~ HC

 

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